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Our Story

Updated: Jul 10, 2014 1:07am

Our Story... Vonbeau.com and beyond...

You may have noticed some big changes [from CostSolutions.Org to Vonbeau.com]. Here is the story of those changes. :)

David & I met in 1991.

David & I @ his parents house in 1993
David & I @ his parents house in 1993 :)

I was in 8th grade and his sister and I had been friends through school. David came to pick her up one day and when he & I saw each other, it was love at first sight. Twenty-one years, four kids, a dog and a cat later, we lived happily ever after and the rest was history. The end.

I wish that was true but, unfortunately, that's just a very small part of our story.

I've always loved my family

Since I met David and introduced him to my parents, my dad has always told me that I should leave David. And, once we got married, he would try to convince me to divorce him by offering me money to start my own business, buy a car or home or whatever else he thought might convince me to let him get his way.

Looking back on all those times, I should have told my dad off and defended my husband and put a stop to it before it ever got out of hand but I didn't and that's what took our relationship to rock bottom.

An unfortunate downward spiral

My family has always been very important to me. So, my way of keeping the peace was to sweep his [my dad's] nasty comments and suggestions under the rug. What I couldn't see at the time was, the pain I was causing my husband, my best friend, my soul mate.

David always brushed off the negative comments. He knew how I felt about my family and felt he should make the sacrifice for my sake. But, as the years passed David could no longer tolerate my family and decided that he would no longer go to my parents house for holidays or visits. The fact that I put them before him caused a huge strain on our marriage [ouch, very ouch. I know]. But, I went to visit them anyway...

Things came to a boiling point in our marriage in 2009. David, over the past two decades, had communicated how he felt but I didn't do anything to make things better. I guess I thought something magical would happen and I wouldn't have to do anything. By this time, our kids were suffering as well.

Our Kiddos in March 2010
Our Kiddos in March 2010 :)

Time for a change...

Without airing too much dirt, I finally stepped up and did the right thing. I told my parents that I did not want them in our lives any more. I cut all ties.

There is not a way to type this out to really show the emotions involved in that statement. I have always loved my Mom and Dad but, I love David and my family more. I will never allow their emotional and verbal abuse to come between us again. Never.

There is so much more to this story. After all, we've been together for 21 years.

About Vonbeau

Vonbeau [ pronounced / von bo / ] is made up of the first three letters in my maiden name and the first four letters in our family's last name.

It wasn't until Feb 2011 David felt comfortable enough in our relationship [and after a lot of begging from me. :) ] to start CostSolutions.Org. Over the past year, our relationship has gotten stronger and stronger. I've done everything I can to try to make up for my behavior over the past two decades.


David has decided we can move forward and forget the past. To me [and, I am sure David feels the same], using Vonbeau.com is a huge step in the right direction for us. It represents us as a team. Together, forever.

Plus, it is a pretty cool name. :)

Sincerely, Jamie.

P.S. We've since moved to Fort Collins, Colorado - where we've always wanted to live. :)

Jamie and David Together - March 2010
Jamie and David Together - March 2010 :)

15 Comments Leave a Comment

Chelsea DilldineChelsea Dilldine
February 13, 2014 4:34 pm

Wow! I had no idea that you two had been through so much. Following Vonbeau on Facebook (and here of course) I just see you two making awesome, cute, hysterical comments and picture y'all at home highfiving all the time lol. Your story is VERY inspirational! My husband and I are battling the same sort of family issues with my parents and we're still in the sweep it under the rug phase. Its nice to know there are couples out there who've been there too! I appreciate everything you guys do to keep us all up with the latest freebies and love that you've made the site that much more personal. Couldn't have said it better myself.. Vonbeau baby!

September 5, 2012 9:49 pm

I really love ur feelings..and read the entire story.. I am proud to say i follow ur blog and would like to share about it to all... Love to know u!!

April 28, 2012 7:31 pm

Bonjour Jamie & David ! I am new to your site & for some reason clicked on the "about" option 2-nite. As I began to read your story I couldn't believe it because you were telling my story. I went thru almost the very same life as you did from my dad offering me the car, house,etc - we also have 4 kids & it was effecting them too. I finally told my dad he had to stop his behavoir or I wouldn't be able to have a relationship with him anymore...but that didn't change him. It took a family tragedy- my 4 yr old getting hit by a car & almost dying to bring my dad & husband together. My husband & I stayed in our son's hospital room 24 hrs a day and my dad finally saw my husband for the good,dedicated, and loving man that he was. Things were never fairy tale perfect after that but at least the nasty comments and bribes to get me to leave him stopped. We finally had a holiday all together at our house & the kids no longer had to be hurt by the awful things my dad said about their father. I'm older than you- met my husband in 1972 when I was 17 & we married in 1975. I lost him to leukemia in 1997 & miss him more as each year passes. I'm glad you & David stuck the bad times out & are happily living in Colorado.. and I admire your honesty & courage sharing your life & story with all of us. Oh, by the way my 4 yr old is 31 now- he recovered & had no problems from his injuries back then : and my 78 yr old dad & I talk every day. I love your site & best of luck with everything.

Jamie J BeauchampJamie J Beauchamp
February 9, 2012 1:58 am

Thank you for the sweet comment, Bernice! You are right about the control thing and it really is a shame that to some people, it's more important than others' happiness.

The name [Vonbeau] is so significant to us and I am so happy David decided to make the change. :)

Bernice CrawfordBernice Crawford
February 7, 2012 11:38 pm

You two make a great looking couple! So sad your family made you choose. I am going through the same scenario with my family, and my fiancee's name is David. I think our families just like to be in control of things. I wish you two continued love and happiness. I love the pages new name. It sounds elegant, just like the both of you!

Jamie BeauchampJamie Beauchamp
January 5, 2012 6:48 am

Dang girl, that is THE BEST compliment ever... You just made our 2012!! ;-)

Jacque Bourne-HubbardJacque Bourne-Hubbard
January 5, 2012 6:44 am

Jamie, you two are like the David and Victoria Beckham of freebie websites---You are BOTH hotties!!

Jamie BeauchampJamie Beauchamp
January 4, 2012 5:28 pm

You have no idea the joy it brings me to be able to have that happy ending. Words cannot express how awesome David is. Man, wait until he reads that "hottie" comment, he'll have a smile on his face ten miles wide. I'll have to try and sneak a pic. ;-)

It is pretty wild how much Justyn looks like his dad. A few years ago we had a picture up on our fridge of me & David with Justyn when he was about 2. Every time one of J's friends saw it, they thought it was a recent pic of him. They always seemed so shocked and could not believe that it was not him but it was, in fact, his dad.

I think all our kiddos look like David. They have his blond hair and all but one got his gorgeous blue eyes. Our youngest has brown eyes like her mama. :)

Thank you so much for your comment and for continuing to be a friend of Vonbeau!

Amy Shaw-NewlandAmy Shaw-Newland
January 4, 2012 3:30 pm

Thanks for sharing your story Jamie! I was sad in the beginning because I thought it was going to end differently. I was so glad for the happy ending! David's quite a hottie too! Your oldest looks just like him in the picture from 93!

I started getting the Vonbeau emails today and my first reaction was "WTH they're totally stealing everything from Costsolutions"! Thanks for all your freebie info and I will continue to spread the word about Vonbeau!

Jamie BeauchampJamie Beauchamp
January 4, 2012 2:23 pm

That is what we LOVE to hear!! YAY!!!

Ana Maricela TrochezAna Maricela Trochez
January 4, 2012 2:22 pm


Jamie BeauchampJamie Beauchamp
January 4, 2012 1:25 pm

Aww thank you Ana! That is without a doubt what we're going to do! :) I Hope you've been able to get loads of free stuff. Glad you like the name too!

Ana Maricela TrochezAna Maricela Trochez
January 4, 2012 12:22 pm

I love your story and love the new name. You rock Vonbeau!, congrats in your marriage and keep going to the end!

Jamie BeauchampJamie Beauchamp
January 4, 2012 10:27 am

Thank you Jacque! <3 It's definitely a story I felt like I needed to share. I was literally jumping up and down when David said let's do this. I think I about bore him to death sometimes when I'm talking about freebies, but he still sits right beside me and listens with a smile on his face. I sure do love that man!! :D

Jacque Bourne-HubbardJacque Bourne-Hubbard
January 4, 2012 10:11 am

OMG, you are so awesome, both of you! Such a powerful testimony. And the pictures you have shared are just friggin AWESOME. You were the very first site I found when I started on a freebie treasure hunt and am always looking on your pages on Facebook as well as the costsolutions/Vonbeau.com site.

I adore you! Now even more so! God says we will leave our parents, but when we marry, we become one, never to be parted. God bless your marriage. And thanks for letting me in on it!




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