CostSolutions.Org to Vonbeau.com and beyond...
You may have noticed some big changes [from CostSolutions.Org to Vonbeau.com]. Here is the story of those changes. :)
David & I met in 1991.
David & I @ his parents house in 1993 :)
I was in 8th grade and his sister and I had been friends through school. David came to pick her up one day and when he & I saw each other, it was love at first site. Twenty-one years, four kids, a dog and a cat later, we lived happily ever after and the rest was history. The end.
I wish that was true but, unfortunately, that's just a very small part of our story.
I've always loved my family
Since I met David and introduced him to my parents, my dad has always told me that I should leave David. And, once we got married, he would try to convince me to divorce him by offering me money to start my own business, buy a car or home or whatever else he thought might convince me to let him get his way.
Looking back on all those times, I should have told my dad off and defended my husband and put a stop to it before it ever got out of hand but I didn't and that's what took our relationship to rock bottom.
An unfortunate downward spiral
My family has always been very important to me. So, my way of keeping the peace was to sweep his [my dad's] nasty comments and suggestions under the rug. What I couldn't see at the time was, the pain I was causing my husband, my best friend, my soul mate.
David always brushed off the negative comments. He knew how I felt about my family and felt he should make the sacrifice for my sake. But, as the years passed David could no longer tolerate my family and decided that he would no longer go to my parents house for holidays or visits. The fact that I put them before him caused a huge strain on our marriage [ouch, very ouch. I know]. But, I went to visit them anyway...
Things came to a boiling point in our marriage in 2009. David, over the past two decades, had communicated how he felt but I didn't do anything to make things better. I guess I thought something magical would happen and I wouldn't have to do anything. By this time, our kids were suffering as well.
Our Kiddos in March 2010 :)
Time for a change...
Without airing too much dirt, I finally stepped up and did the right thing. I told my parents that I did not want them in our lives any more. I cut all ties.
There is not a way to type this out to really show the emotions involved in that statement. I have always loved my Mom and Dad but, I love David and my family more. I will never allow their emotional and verbal abuse to come between us again. Never.
There is so much more to this story. After all, we've been together for 21 years.
Vonbeau [ pronounced / von bo / ] is made up of the first three letters in my maiden name and the first four letters in our family's last name.
It wasn't until Feb 2011 David felt comfortable enough in our relationship [and after a lot of begging from me. :) ] to start CostSolutions.Org. Over the past year, our relationship has gotten stronger and stronger. I've done everything I can to try to make up for my behavior over the past two decades.
David has decided we can move forward and forget the past. To me [and, I am sure David feels the same], using Vonbeau.com is a huge step in the right direction for us. It represents us as a team. Together, forever.
Plus, it is a pretty cool name. :)
P.S. We've since moved to Fort Collins, Colorado - where we've always wanted to live. :)
Jamie and David Together - March 2010 :)